I don’t know if it’s just me or not but marriage seems to be a dying tradition.
To be honest, I’ve never known too many married couples especially black couples. I’ve only been to two weddings in my whole life and I’m 27 years old. The interesting thing is that I can’t tell you the amount of baby showers that I’ve been to.
I was never really the girl who always dreamed of getting married. Maybe because my mother wasn’t married and neither are any of my aunts so it was something that wasn’t “normal” for me to see. My mom always had a ” I don’t need a man for anything” attitude which rubbed of on me of course. In fact I hadn’t realized how much it did until getting into a serious relationship. I literally had to teach myself how to be more “submissive” and I’m not talking about in a demeaning way.
In my experience being married for 5 years, I’ve learned that marriage is hard. Marriage is a partnership. It’s being vulnerable and unselfish. I also have learned that you have to careful to not lose yourself in marriage. Again, Marriage is a partnership and both people in the marriage should be able to lean on each other and be confident in knowing that no matter what your spouse has your back through thick and thin. When I say don’t lose yourself I mean not to get lost in your spouses shadow. You can be a support system for someone and still pursue your own dreams and ambitions. Don’t let any one tell you different!
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With Love, as always,